Are you happy with who you are??

I am happy with who I am.
 
For those of us who had traumatic births, were not wanted, or had trauma early in life, this can be a daunting phrase to believe and live.  Everything in us can tell us differently.  Yet that just isn’t true.
 
You are worthy of love, first the love is from you!
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This one took me years and years. Literally.  Tons of counseling, step work, working with sponsors, sponsees, reading all the self-help stuff, taking classes, etc.
 
The time when this lesson really came to me with an old friend.   He taught me this phrase, “I like who I am when I’m with you”
 
Wait, what?  Is that a codependent phrase?  Let me say it again…

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“I like who I am when I’m with you. “

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​For me that phrase has helped me to find my people. You see, when   I am my most comfortable, most natural self, then that is a place or person I should be around.  When my anxiety rises, I feel insecure and stumbling, that is not a situation that I need to be a part of.  That easy.  If I don’t like who I am being, then I can leave until I feel familiar to me again.
 
At first I used that phrase to help me to break my codependency and anxiety in social situations. Once I found “my people”, I used it to help me move through uncomfortable situations.    I found my people, my place, my heart, I knew I could go anywhere and be authentic.
 
Yes, today I have found a way to be happy with who I am. I am not perfect, still have anxiety, weird quirks and social anxiety. Yet the feeling that I need to run away and hide is gone, the feeling that I don’t measure up has left.
 
Allow yourself to heal, the love you are seeking is within you. I promise, when you learn your value, when you see it, you will never again allow yourself to live a life less than what you deserve.
 
And my darling, you deserve the best!

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